What’s your frequency? Are you tuned into fear, uncertainty, and doubt or are you dialed into abundance, love, and gratitude? Take a moment to press pause and tune into where you are spending and sending your energy. Remember, where thoughts go – energy flows.
Our frequency, like our destiny, should be primarily within our own hands. As individuals, as couples, and as families (however fragmented), we function best when able to monitor our personalized dials and tweak them as needed. As you said, match your frequency with the reality you want (and tune in!). It’s like our emotional rhythms are internalized personalized radios. So, when I swing my dial a bit too far in one direction – like anger, procrastination, or falling off the exercise wagon, it’s up to me to fix it and create my healthier reality….like plugging in an old feel-good song at the end of a really tough day at work…and I do (eventually).
Typically, I’m pretty adept at managing my own station. Typically, my husband and I identify and adore the tune that fills our home. Typically, my stepdaughter would wholeheartedly agree (and introduce a beat that harmonizes well here). But lately, something’s up with our air waves. It’s like piercing static replaces the music. We’re trying to regain our tune of love, integrity, appreciation, and growth but there are so many notes of blame, greed, self-righteousness, and war (from the mother who is attempting to create a bond with the daughter she abandoned years ago). Sacrificed to that stressful legal battle is our sense of self development along with balance. Interference at its finest!
When our reality, to some degree, becomes so defined by the frequency of our environment to which we must tune in (and respond), what do you recommend? Are there other child-less stepmoms out there who feel lost in their own worlds as they’re taken over by the mothers of the kids they’re raising? Does anybody else out there feel like the child is more static and less music sometimes (and hate the stepmonsterish feeling associated with that thought)? Is there a community that connects or talks to each other through this site? I’m looking to practice some compartmentalization around this un-motherly zone of bad reception and tune into positives.