Author’s Note: The Stepmom’s Self-Deceptions is a series of articles I am re-running from the summer
The Self-Betrayal Decision Tree
An act contrary to what you feel you should for another is called Self-Betrayal. ~ The Arbinger Institute
Using the example I described in Part III of The Stepmom’s Self-Deception, I’m going to share with you the Arbinger Institute’s self-betrayal [...]
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Part IV: The Stepmom’s Self-Deception
Part III: The Stepmom’s Self-Deception
Author’s Note: I am re-running my articles on Self-Deception and Self-Betrayal
Self-Betrayal
Shortly after my first anniversary I received an email from The Ex-Wife’s step-brother. He sent out a family request to help her move. Her second marriage just ended in divorce and she couldn’t afford to stay in the apartment she was living in. She [...]
Part II: The Stepmom’s Self-Deception
Stuck in the Muck
Nearly a year ago, I realized that in my remarried equation and my life as a stepmom, I’m the only variable. That’s the nice way of telling myself, “Peggy, you’re the problem.”
Kristi, our Bonus Mom for June realized the same thing when she stated, “I am the creator of my own drama.”
And [...]
When We Said “I Do”
When Richard and I said “I Do” we both said “I will” to a lot. Every remarried couple knows what I’m talking about. From combining two households to ex-spouses, ex-lives, in-laws, out-laws, excess baggage, kids, finances, and yes, even pets.
Prior to our walk down the aisle (or my walk…he waited for me at the altar!) [...]
Ditch the Control Factor
Tess Marshall has an amazing article today that I believe you must read. Today. Right now. Go on. I’ll wait.
Why? Because one of the reasons stepmoms find themselves in such a pickle is their need to control. (Been there!) Once I let go of my need to control people (i.e. the Ex-Wife) outside my little world, [...]
Top 10 Suggestions for the Week Ahead
Alrighty faithful readers – I’m outta here! My brain has officially left the building! Tomorrow around this time I will be on the island to your left with a beer in one hand and a book in the other.
So…as I leave y’all for the week, I’m going to leave with
My TOP TEN suggestions for the week!
ONE [...]
Part V: The Stepmom’s Self-Deception
Stumbling Awake
Sometimes, stumbling awake can be a painful, but necessary, experience. My journey as a step mom often flies in the face of my journey as a mom. Having a central role in my remarried family dynamic has been illuminating, frustrating, wonderful, perplexing, strange, odd, weird, and most of the time, down right fantabulous. I love my husband, I [...]