Stepmom Check-IN
Have you read your copy of the March issue of StepMom Magazine? Pretty amazing, right? And if you haven’t, what’s stopping you from getting your hands on the only magazine by stepmoms for stepmoms? You’re missing out on the experts – Jacquelyn Fletcher, Susan Wisdom, Mary Kelly-Williams, Wednesday Martin, MOI, and more!
Are you doing the 40 Day “Don’t Take it Personally” Challenge? How are you doing with it? Are you writing in your journal every day? Are you paying attention to what you’re saying to yourself every time you take something personally? Care to share your observations?
Did you get a chance to listen to The Stepmom’s Toolbox Radio Show with Wednesday Martin? What did you think? Comments, suggestions, feedback welcome! We’ll be having Wednesday back on SOON! She was awesome 
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Love this month’s issue from stepmom magazine! It is such a great resource and I look forward to getting that email every month!
.-= Life of a Stepmama´s last blog ..Oh What a Crap Day =-.
I have not yet been to the magazine but I did listen to the awesome radio show. You are NOT kidding Peggy, there was gold in what Wednesday had to say. The best for me was about the fact to accept that the stepparent will never be THE parent and should NOT even try to fully parent a child when it already has two bio parents. Wow that hit me between the eyes big time and was sooooooo useful. Of course and that makes it so easy to step back and not feeling bad as if I do not care. I do care but there are boundaries around the extend of interference as a step parent. Wow, that explained a lot.
Another gem was the explanation that we women are taking relationships very serious, we so want to be friends with everybody and hey when that is not possible we fret and cannot accept that that is NOT our fault.
We did not try enough, we do not love enough, what crap and what a way to make life miserable.
Oh Peggy, it was a marvelous gem packed show and thank you and Erin and Wednesday so much. It sure is worth a listen. xox Wilma
.-= Wilma Ham´s last blog ..Interrupted thinking creates half-baked me. =-.
Hi Wilma,
I hope more stepmoms here the message Wednesday delivered. We may do “mom” things, but we are not mom, will never be mom, so to think of ourselves as “mom” when they have a mom sets us up for colossal failure. And because I know I’ve just pissed off a whole bunch of custodial stepmoms, I AM a custodial stepmom. And when I tried to full on parent Junior, when I tried to fix him, when I tried to “clean up the mess” I ran into my own anger, my own frustration, and created 99% of my own drama. I stepped back, stepped out, and when I decided to re-engage, I did so on different terms based on what I expected and not what the rest of the world expected.
Even I will be re-listening to the show because Wednesday had so much good advice backed by extensive research!
xo
Peggy
StepMom Magazine? Oh, yes! I love it. I discuss it with another smom, but often wish I liked the StepMom Magazine website better (since I imagine that people discuss the magazine there…). I’d love to have conversations about some of the articles.
40 Day Challenge? No. I’m doing pretty well lately. But I love the idea and I can certainly see how it could help someone.
Radio show? Absolutely!! I don’t think I’ve missed one yet. But, again, since it tends to take me a few minutes (er, hours, sometimes) to process some things, I’d love to have a way to continue discussing the great topics, comments, and insight after the show.
I very much enjoyed your conversation with Wednesday. I agree that step moms have to “be one” with the fact that we are not our stepkids’ mothers. I am thinking that is easier to do if the stepmom has her own kids. Not sure. Wednesday made an interesting comment when she said that bio moms have a lot of fear. I think we as stepmoms need to know more about that. I would love to start having conversations with bio moms on this blog and on the radio show so that we can all get more acquainted with what is going on with each “side”. I think that is the next step in creating happy, healthy stepmother stepfamilies. What do you think Peggy, any chance of having some bio moms on your radio show?
Jessica,
That’s AWESOME feedback for both Brenda at StepMom Magazine and for our radio show.
I know Erin blogged about a key point from our show and I continued part of the conversation on our fan page on facebook. We do have a comments section on our radio show page as well.
Thanks so much for the feedback!
Hi Ellen,
I will be having Jennifer Newcomb Marine on my show, and I’m a mom as well. I have two older daughters (25 and 22) from my first marriage – so I know that fear Wednesday speaks of. Wednesday herself is a mom with two young kiddos and expressed early on in the show how she’d feel if suddenly there was another woman in her kids’ lives.
You know – I think I need to have my own mom on the show as well. She’s a mom, started out as my stepmom, and then she adopted me and my three brothers. She’s seen it all and did it all when the only current role model she had was Carol Brady.
I am a first time contributor to the magazine this month and it is such a pleasure to be amongst such experts! I love the idea of commenting on the magazine as there are always interesting articles that I’d love to talk further about. Radio show is on my agenda for tonight!
.-= Lisa Bagshaw´s last blog ..40 Day Challenge- Don’t Quit =-.
by the way Peggy, I loved your article in Stepmom Magazine. So honest and wise. Compassion for our husband’s, (or anyone’s) ex is really important in our own journey as well as theirs. We’ve all been ex of some sort, to someone and we’ve all been crazy-hurt, it is no fun.
.-= Lisa Bagshaw´s last blog ..40 Day Challenge- Don’t Quit =-.
I would love to hear from your mom on your radio show! I have several adult friends with stepmoms. One of them is very close to her stepmom. She told me her stepmom was very smart in how she handled the bio mom thing. She gave me some great tips. I would love to get more. I must say, I admire how you seem to have been able to be so inclusive in your interactions with your husband’s ex. I am thinking that your mom is a great role model for you.
I had not even heard of this magazine! What is it about exactly? Is it to help us new wives of husbands who already have children? Please let me know! Thanks. I will try and pick one up though!
.-= Vic´s last blog ..Japanese Hair Straightening =-.
i am thinking about subscribing to StepMom mag…. does anyone know if you can access back issues once you are a subscriber? there are some articles in the Feb issue that i wanted to read but missed. thanks!
Theresa,
StepMom Magazine has a fabulous offer right now – get 11 back issues when you subscribe during March Madness. So, 23 issues for the price of 12! Awesome offer