Stepmom Resources
These are the resources that have helped me become a better me, a better wife, a better mom, a better bonus mom, and a little smarter financially!
Peggy’s Picks for Best Stepmom Resources
Peggy’s Picks: Must Reads for Step Moms!
As a step mom, mom, wife, woman, human being – these are some of the books that I recommend to anyone and everyone who’s having a tough time with Self-Care because they’re too busy Caretaking…
Book recommendations for you and your wonderful husband – blending families is tough and communication between husband and wife is critical to building love, respect, trust, and nurturing your relationship.
Let’s face it, kids are TOUGH! These are my top recommendations for being a Step Mom and Step Parenting (and Parenting in general!)
I hear from so many step moms with financial problems – these are my top book recommendations from my favorite financial gurus:
I recently found your site, and think a new book I’m publicizing published by GPP Life books might be of interest to your readers. The authors, an ex-wife and stepmother team, propose that it’s time to stop being so blasé about the hostility and opposition that typically characterize a mother/stepmother relationship, and figure out a way to work together for the sake of the kids.
I would be happy to send a review copy to your attention.
In No One’s the Bitch, (GPP Life, an imprint of Globe Pequot Press; May, 2009; ISBN: 978-0-7627-5093-1; $16.95; Paperback), ex-wife/stepmother team extraordinaire Jennifer Newcomb Marine and Carol Marine air their dirty laundry, share formerly secret thoughts, and lay out a plan to navigate the minefield that typically exists between moms and stepmoms.
With humor and reassurance, No One’s the Bitch provides ten powerful concepts that walk readers past the point of traditional antagonism and into a revolutionary new approach for family cohesiveness. Playful but in-your-face quizzes, thought provoking journal questions, and true-life stories make it fun to work your way from conflict to cooperation. The authors also examine how the father plays into problems, or progress, between the women.
Some sobering facts:
Up to 1300 stepfamilies are formed every day in the United States
46 out of every 100 marriages today is a remarriage for one or both partners
75% of remarriages involving children end in divorce
Sharing the belief that our culture is hungry for a new family model after divorce and remarriage, the authors, who at one point were incapable of sharing eye contact, now share a community bank account, and have learned to “do the right thing” as adults instead of putting their comfort first. No One’s the Bitch provides a vision of what’s possible, and a step-by-step guide to help you get there.
Please forward me your shipping address, and a review copy will be on its way to you.
Many thanks for your consideration…
b
Thanks Bob! I just sent you an email…I would LOVE to review the book!
I would really like to see something that deals with the relationship between stepmoms of daughters of custodial fathers. I’ve been with my widower husband for 25 years and his girls still make my life a misery.
Joy – I am a daughter who’s dad won custody of me and my 3 brothers back in 1971. He remarried when I was 9 and my mom (dad’s 2nd wife) later adopted us when I was 12.
I will search for something for you. I know that Ron L. Deal has a chapter in his book, “Smart Stepfamilies” dealing with women who marry a widower.
xxoo
TBG
Hi Peggy!
Don’t forget Blended Family Advice- by Shirley Cress Dudley (Xlibris, November 2009) It’s available on Amazon.com and also an autographed copy on my website: http://www.TheBlendedandStepFamilyResourceCenter.com
Hello! Its great to find you. We’ve been a step family for almost eight years now. Look forward to knowing more about you and visiting often!
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I’m glad you found the Toolbox Sweetie!
I have yet to find any resources that deal with blended families in which the bio-parents were NEVER MARRIED and didn’t have a relationship. Without that history of love, or at least moderate “like”, the issues are much different. Any suggestions?
I am so glad I found this site! I could use all the help I could get!
I’ll look into resources for you, but not sure how the issues really differ. Can you share an example or two? Thanks! Peggy
Hi Peggy,
Well, custody and access issues are different (where we live anyway). The courts tend to not award “joint” or “shared” parenting when the parents were never married or living common-law. This means that the non-custodial parent (usually the father) has to fight to see his child. Since there isn’t that shared history or mutual admiration that had to have been there if there was a marriage, it’s a whole lot more likely that the situation will be high-conflict. In our experience, the mother of my step-child has refused to allow the child to have any contact with my husband’s side of the family because she doesn’t believe they are family. She has sole custody, the child is hers and my husband is only there to pay support for getting her pregnant.
Maybe I only perceive there to be differences, mostly in the inequalities in court. Thanks for looking though!