What Every Step Mom Needs!
Wow…last night I recevied my advanced copy of No One’s the Bitch: A Ten-Step Plan for the Mother and Stepmother Relationship by Jennifer Newcomb Marine (the Mom) and Carol Marine (the Step Mom).
How I Spent My Lunch Hour (ok, Two Hours!)
I started reading this at lunch and read through another hour of “work” time I’m blown away. These two ladies have written a fabulous book that is solely focused on the relationship between the mom and the step mom.
In between the humor, the journal exercises, and the short quizzes is a book that will hit nearly every woman who’s in a mom/step mom relationship right between the eyes. I know it did for me. A loving mental dope slap!
I was blessed to fall into a decent relationship with my husband’s ex-wife and her family. It doesn’t mean it’s been a bed of roses. Fortunately, she and I can come together, put the kids first (and the kids are adults except for my youngest step son, who just turned 17), and do the right thing. Even with our great relationship, this book has given me my own a-ha moments!
Owning My Own Crap (I loved this chapter!)
I’m usually pretty good about owning my own stuff…and when the authors talked about this I realized that I’m still trying “look good” as a step mom. I’ve agonized over this because of my own self-imposed microscope and this silly false belief that my husband’s ex-wife’s family (ok, really, they’re his family, too…long story…stay tuned) are watching me. Can someone pass the pin to pop my ego? No one is watching me!
Another thing that just made me cringe inside is how critical I’ve been towards my step kids’ mom. At one time or another (even now) I can say “yes” to each critical statement Jennifer and Carol listed in their quiz “The Joy of Being Judgemental.” I daresay, I have more WORK to do on myself!
Standing Ovation to Jennifer Newcomb Marine and Carol Marine – I believe you ladies have hit a Grand Slam!
I’m recommending this to every step mom I know and don’t know!