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Last night’s Stepmom’s Toolbox Radio Show was fabulous! Our guests, Cathryn Bond-Doyle and Tricia Powe were AWESOME! The show is available for down load or you can click below and listen in as Cathryn and Tricia dish tips, tools and advice on How To Handle Your Husband’s Ex-Wife!
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Some great ideas in this show. I particularly liked the idea of eliminating the husband as the processing partner. For me, blogging and stepmom networking has been a great way of doing that. I also liked the idea of “changing the channel.” I have to admit, I need that remote sometimes!
Thanks for your hard work in making this show. Great job.
What a great show and the timing couldn’t have been more perfect for me as I am entering month 7 of marriage and official stepmom-dom (even though my step-daughter has been a part of my life for almost 5 years now) and roles and responsibilities are becoming an issue for me (and DH). My DH and I are starting to fight about my “attitude” and how I don’t need to be “nasty” to his daughter when I tell her for the 40th time to stop talking with her mouth full or to put her napkin on her lap. Listening to the advice in your show about how to release and surrender feelings about the biomom are similar to other thoughts echoed on stepmothering blogs here and elsewhere about disengaging and realizing that you can’t fix the problem, etc. etc. This all sounds great and I clearly recognize my ego and my need for control (and how I see my way of doing things as “right”) as wrong but it’s easier said than done to just let it go. My husband is great about letting me “parent” to a degree but I’m feeling like it’s becoming contentious between him and I and I feel really lost. Frankly, I don’t know what my role is anymore. I would love to say “Yes, my role is to love her and support her and to be her ally and to allow her to become the best person she can become” but inside I’m screaming “Close your mouth when you chew! How hard is that!? You’re 9 years old, it’s time to stop using your fingers when you eat! and no, you can’t stay up for another 15 minutes to watch TV!” I know what I’m going through is not new (and I’m sorry for the long post) but I would love some added perspective on how to give up some control and truly be ok with it. Thank you a wonderful blog and for being a voice for all of us lost stepmoms out there!
Thanks Sharon! I am SO glad you got some great ideas from it. Erin and I had a lot of fun doing the show and we’ve got great things in store! Stay tuned
Hi DHP,
You are so not alone! Erin and I are adding a 30 minute segment this month where we can address very specific topics like letting go, parenting from the same page, how to deal with anger, etc. Thank you for listening!