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Comment on Stepmom Check-IN by Vic

Vic — Tue, 09 Mar 2010 23:13:54 +0000

I had not even heard of this magazine! What is it about exactly? Is it to help us new wives of husbands who already have children? Please let me know! Thanks. I will try and pick one up though!
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Comment on Stepmom Check-IN by Ellen

Ellen — Fri, 05 Mar 2010 14:34:23 +0000

I would love to hear from your mom on your radio show! I have several adult friends with stepmoms. One of them is very close to her stepmom. She told me her stepmom was very smart in how she handled the bio mom thing. She gave me some great tips. I would love to get more. I must say, I admire how you seem to have been able to be so inclusive in your interactions with your husband’s ex. I am thinking that your mom is a great role model for you.

Comment on Don’t Take It Personally – The 40 Day Challenge by Wilma Ham

Wilma Ham — Fri, 05 Mar 2010 04:55:34 +0000

Oh it is so exciting to see all this good stuff coming from this explanation on how NOT to take thing personal. In step families it is a MUST to understand this I would say. There is so much hurt and pain and confusion going on, arrows are aimed all over the place and why when one hit you, would you think it was actually aimed at you?
I also recommend Peggy’s radio shows, so much gold there too.
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Comment on Stepmom Check-IN by Lisa Bagshaw

Lisa Bagshaw — Fri, 05 Mar 2010 01:16:01 +0000

by the way Peggy, I loved your article in Stepmom Magazine. So honest and wise. Compassion for our husband’s, (or anyone’s) ex is really important in our own journey as well as theirs. We’ve all been ex of some sort, to someone and we’ve all been crazy-hurt, it is no fun.
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Comment on Stepmom Check-IN by Lisa Bagshaw

Lisa Bagshaw — Fri, 05 Mar 2010 00:26:47 +0000

I am a first time contributor to the magazine this month and it is such a pleasure to be amongst such experts! I love the idea of commenting on the magazine as there are always interesting articles that I’d love to talk further about. Radio show is on my agenda for tonight!
Lisa Bagshaw´s last blog ..40 Day Challenge- Don’t Quit

Comment on Don’t Take It Personally – The 40 Day Challenge by Lisa Bagshaw

Lisa Bagshaw — Thu, 04 Mar 2010 23:19:19 +0000

My first ah ha moment came on day 10! Wow, that was fast. I realized that whenever I am taking something personally, I am telling myself, he (husband or one of twin step sons)doesn’t love me. Now I thought that was old stuff, but Hello! its still there…

back to it!
Lisa Bagshaw´s last blog ..40 Day Challenge- Don’t Quit

Comment on Don’t Take It Personally – The 40 Day Challenge by Peggy Nolan

Peggy Nolan — Thu, 04 Mar 2010 16:02:01 +0000

Dayle,

I am so proud of you! I read your recent blog post and CRAP – I can’t post a reply from this computer. I have to wait until I get home. But what I want to say to you is HOORAY for working through a trigger. Your ego is really trying to hold onto your old story – and it wants to because egos just love that kind of story from childhood. I say this because I’m pretty sure I’ve gotten to the root cause of one of my own issues and it stems from a time when I was eight years old. I’ll be writing about this very soon.

Don’t let your ego win the battle or the war.

Today’s a new day!

Comment on Stepmom Check-IN by Peggy Nolan

Peggy Nolan — Thu, 04 Mar 2010 15:54:30 +0000

Hi Ellen,

I will be having Jennifer Newcomb Marine on my show, and I’m a mom as well. I have two older daughters (25 and 22) from my first marriage – so I know that fear Wednesday speaks of. Wednesday herself is a mom with two young kiddos and expressed early on in the show how she’d feel if suddenly there was another woman in her kids’ lives.

You know – I think I need to have my own mom on the show as well. She’s a mom, started out as my stepmom, and then she adopted me and my three brothers. She’s seen it all and did it all when the only current role model she had was Carol Brady.

Comment on Stepmom Check-IN by Peggy Nolan

Peggy Nolan — Thu, 04 Mar 2010 15:49:25 +0000

Jessica,

That’s AWESOME feedback for both Brenda at StepMom Magazine and for our radio show.

I know Erin blogged about a key point from our show and I continued part of the conversation on our fan page on facebook. We do have a comments section on our radio show page as well.

Thanks so much for the feedback!

Comment on Stepmom Check-IN by Ellen

Ellen — Thu, 04 Mar 2010 14:29:10 +0000

I very much enjoyed your conversation with Wednesday. I agree that step moms have to “be one” with the fact that we are not our stepkids’ mothers. I am thinking that is easier to do if the stepmom has her own kids. Not sure. Wednesday made an interesting comment when she said that bio moms have a lot of fear. I think we as stepmoms need to know more about that. I would love to start having conversations with bio moms on this blog and on the radio show so that we can all get more acquainted with what is going on with each “side”. I think that is the next step in creating happy, healthy stepmother stepfamilies. What do you think Peggy, any chance of having some bio moms on your radio show?