A Day In The Life Of…

Nov 5, 2009 by Peggy Nolan

Integrity.  Commitment to Excellence.  Stubbornly Optimistic!

 

I’m introducing a new weekly column called “A Day In The Life Of…”  This column is by readers and stepmoms just like you and me.  If you would like to share a slice of your stepmom life, please feel free to drop me an email at toolboxgrl@gmail.com!  I want to showcase as many awesome stepmoms as I can!

Twelve Important Remarried Life Lessons From Merin, Stepmom Extraordinare!

Merin is the mom of two and stepmom of two.  Merin’s favorite quote is, “You have to stand for something, or you will fall for anything.” She and her husband have been blissfully living the crazy, fun, and chaotic remarried life for six years.

1. Your husband’s ex-wife does not need to like you or approve– It isn’t legally required in order for you to be with and/or have married her Ex-husband
2. As insecure as you may feel about your husband’s ex-wife — Chances are, she feels more so that way about you
3. Not dwelling on what you can’t change will make you a much more happier person
4. Your husband has an obligation to try to have a working relationship with his ex-wife — and it doesn’t mean he still thinks about her in her underwear
5. Nobody has the power to take anything from you that you do not want to give
6. Grilled cheese and soup are an acceptable dinner when you’ve had a long day
7. NOT giving your husband’s ex-wife more ‘airtime’ then really REALLY necessary is the best thing to do in any situation— Golden rule here ladies— If you have nothing good to say, then save it and say it to someone else that still thinks you the shitz nitz even when you’re acting crazy
8. My husband is my favorite playmate, soulmate and friend even if his Ex-wife acts crazy– It isn’t his fault and it isn’t mine either
9. Kids grow up…
10. Life stops for no one so enjoy the ride…
11. Surround yourself with people that make you laugh until you almost pee your pants, love you when you’ve gone a little koo koo and still are seen out with you in public…
12. Really know that the man you’re with doesn’t always enjoy what is going on either but  unlike us girls,  your husband doesn’t want to talk about it for hours on end to find a ‘solution’ because in his mind… the solution is YOU’RE IN IT TOGETHER.

That’s good advice Merin! 

Now it’s your turn, ladies!  What has your experience as stepmom taught YOU?

 

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